The 3rd of Three Things We Control

The 3rd of Three Things We Control

3) Your Environment. The third sphere of control that each of us has is over our environment. As good stewards of our natural environment we control whether we litter or recycle, water the plants or let them wilt. It is under our control to beautify our surroundings or choose to live amongst the clutter. Even the worst of apartments or the smallest work cubicle can be transformed by the...

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Things We Control #2

Things We Control #2

2) Your Relationships. Humans are relational beings. The human heart craves connection. Why else would solitary confinement be such a cruel punishment or the unheld orphan lack basic mental and physical development. The strong independent person still needs a hug, a pat on the back, a warm handshake and an encouraging smile. Without human contact we lack a sounding board for our thoughts and...

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There are Only 3 Things I can Control

There are Only 3 Things I can Control

Three things. When you boil it all down there are really only 3 things that each of us controls in life. And that’s only true if you live in the privileged and affluent parts of our world. For some it is only two or one. Like the primary colors of red, blue and yellow combine to make the whole rainbow it is these primary factors alone that we have the ability to control. All else is a...

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If I knew I was going to live this long

If I knew I was going to live this long

If I knew I was going to live this long, I’d have taken better care of myself. Mickey Mantle,(attributed) US baseball player (1931 – 1995) I’m not sure what other regrets a man like Mickey Mantle may have had at the end of his life, but this quote has deeper meaning than giving us a short chuckle. Wouldn’t it be great to go peacefully to your grave with no regrets and...

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Individual Rights vs. Common Good

Individual Rights vs. Common Good

There has always been a tension in the American character between individual rights and the common good. While we’ve loved and admired John Wayne striking out on his own with just a horse and a rifle, we’ve also known that the wagon train couldn’t make it across the plains unless we all stuck together. So writes Walter Bennis in On Becoming a Leader. In the early 1800’s...

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Men need to join the battle against violence.

Men need to join the battle against violence.

“Most men in their lives will not commit sexual violence, but most acts of sexual violence are committed by men.” There is a sad reality to that truth. Now add that a great percentage of mental illness is the result of abuse, either the abused or a witness of the abuse and we men should hang our head in shame. If you found out it was your sister, wife or mother you’d probably get all...

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Powerful Words

Words are powerful. They can be used to impress, persuade, seduce, incite and deflate. We’ve all used words to convince others, get what we want and influence the situation. While I love the power that words have I am not overly impressed when someone uses a ten dollar word when a couple of simpler, more common words would do the job. Let me correct that. When I have to stop my reading to...

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Conversation on WHAT EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW

Your thoughts and opinions are welcomed and encouraged here. No judgments no right or wrong. How do you feel about your ability to response honestly to the questions about Where you come from, Where are you at Right Now, Where are you going, Your Friends and Your Gifts?   Comment below, and thank...

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Nine Things Every Guy Oughta Know – What’s the Tenth?

This is a space to get your opinion on what is the 10th or 11th or 12th that every guy oughta know. Some friends have suggested changing the oil in a car, fixing a bike, gutting an animal, and planning a night out. What do you think? Any comments on what you read? Corrections, feedback. Get the conversation...

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Not Everything is an EVENT!!

Not Everything is an EVENT!!

I love a party. A holiday gathering, a celebration. A time set aside to honor or remember a loved one, a friend or event. Good food, libations, conversations, laughter, dancing. A time set apart from the everyday activities and routines to mark a special occasion. We as humans have much to gain from celebrations. Some cultures do this better than others, some do it more often. Whether religious...

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Lessons from the Hot Tub

Lessons from the Hot Tub

This week end I had the chance to see a lesson I learned immediately displayed – let me explain. My wife and I were in Cedar Rapids Iowa as video presenters of a fantastic marriage seminar called Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage. The seminar presenter – Pastor Mark Gungor, shared that one of the reasons married men do better in some things (make more money, in business) is because they...

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Are you just passing through or enjoying each moment

I travel for business and find myself in a variety of locations, some more exciting than others. Often my path crosses other road warriors and it surprises me how unprepared they are to enjoy their travels. Personally I lean toward outdoor activities, search out hiking trails or swimming beaches. Its easy enough to toss in a pair of hiking boots or swimming trunks. Most cities have a local...

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Dog Collar for GERD sufferers

The Milwaukee Journal / Sentinel carried an article on March 19, 2012 expounding the creation of a device that will help sufferers of gastric reflux / GERD. If you are not familiar with this ailment you probably have heard it referred to as heart burn. The food we eat enters the stomach through the esophagus and a valve that separates the two – the Cardiac Sphincter. Acid in the stomach works...

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Seven Deadly Social Sins – Gandhi

Politics without Principle Wealth without Works Commerce without Morality Pleasure without Conscience Education without Character Science without Humanity Worship without Sacrifice

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McDonalds Real Fruit Smoothies – Really??

While I dislike government regulations as much as the next guy, there is one industry that really needs to be harnessed, regulated, gagged or just plain legislated to be honest in what they say. The food industry has taken the role of providing nutritional intake to the people. Actually – that’s not true at all. The food industry has taken the role of providing their stockholders with...

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Are you beyond thinking about Coaching?

Are you beyond just thinking about coaching and ready to jump in?  Not everyone is actually ready to be coached or even ‘coachable’.  Not everyone is serious about creating a life of their own design, to make deliberate and conscience decisions that will make major +positive + changes to how they live and enjoy who they are and how they interact with the world around...

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My senator’s response to the health care situation

I recently wrote (okay – I signed an on-line message that got sent) to my congressional representatives asking that the health care discussion not be lost in political in-fighting and party politics. Here is what I received back in an email from one of my senators: Dear Mr. Fine: Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts about health care reform.  I have heard from thousands...

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Ever heard of Randy Pausch?

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The Five Rules of Traveling and Life

James Michner in his well known best seller The Drifters tells the story of a group of 20 somethings who meet and travel together in Europe and beyond. Each chapter begins with a series of quotes that make it worth the read all on their own. I first read the book 30 years ago. Amongst all the quotes the Five Rules of Traveling are one of those profound thoughts that have remained with me...

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