The 3rd of Three Things We Control

The 3rd of Three Things We Control

3) Your Environment. The third sphere of control that each of us has is over our environment. As good stewards of our natural environment we control whether we litter or recycle, water the plants or let them wilt. It is under our control to beautify our surroundings or choose to live amongst the clutter. Even the worst of apartments or the smallest work cubicle can be transformed by the...

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Things We Control #2

Things We Control #2

2) Your Relationships. Humans are relational beings. The human heart craves connection. Why else would solitary confinement be such a cruel punishment or the unheld orphan lack basic mental and physical development. The strong independent person still needs a hug, a pat on the back, a warm handshake and an encouraging smile. Without human contact we lack a sounding board for our thoughts and...

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There are Only 3 Things I can Control

There are Only 3 Things I can Control

Three things. When you boil it all down there are really only 3 things that each of us controls in life. And that’s only true if you live in the privileged and affluent parts of our world. For some it is only two or one. Like the primary colors of red, blue and yellow combine to make the whole rainbow it is these primary factors alone that we have the ability to control. All else is a...

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Why Go It Alone?

Why Go It Alone?

In their book ‘The Accidental Leader’, authors Robbins and Finley write: “No one leads alone. Leaders who do their jobs are continually consulting with others. They are always plugged in to other people. They use others as mentors, as peer review panels, as confidants to bounce ideas off. They schmooze, they copy, they complain. They listen, they steal. Sometimes they just turn...

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If I knew I was going to live this long

If I knew I was going to live this long

If I knew I was going to live this long, I’d have taken better care of myself. Mickey Mantle,(attributed) US baseball player (1931 – 1995) I’m not sure what other regrets a man like Mickey Mantle may have had at the end of his life, but this quote has deeper meaning than giving us a short chuckle. Wouldn’t it be great to go peacefully to your grave with no regrets and...

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Men need to join the battle against violence.

Men need to join the battle against violence.

“Most men in their lives will not commit sexual violence, but most acts of sexual violence are committed by men.” There is a sad reality to that truth. Now add that a great percentage of mental illness is the result of abuse, either the abused or a witness of the abuse and we men should hang our head in shame. If you found out it was your sister, wife or mother you’d probably get all...

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Conversation on WHAT EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW

Your thoughts and opinions are welcomed and encouraged here. No judgments no right or wrong. How do you feel about your ability to response honestly to the questions about Where you come from, Where are you at Right Now, Where are you going, Your Friends and Your Gifts?   Comment below, and thank...

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Nine Things Every Guy Oughta Know – What’s the Tenth?

This is a space to get your opinion on what is the 10th or 11th or 12th that every guy oughta know. Some friends have suggested changing the oil in a car, fixing a bike, gutting an animal, and planning a night out. What do you think? Any comments on what you read? Corrections, feedback. Get the conversation...

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Lessons from the Hot Tub

Lessons from the Hot Tub

This week end I had the chance to see a lesson I learned immediately displayed – let me explain. My wife and I were in Cedar Rapids Iowa as video presenters of a fantastic marriage seminar called Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage. The seminar presenter – Pastor Mark Gungor, shared that one of the reasons married men do better in some things (make more money, in business) is because they...

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Estate Planning 4 the Non-Traditional Couple

You have rights. Rights, privileges and choices. And yet for many of us, the day to day grind of the here and now distracts us from taking the simple steps to insure our choices are of our own making. During our lifetime we invest heavily. We invest in our careers, we invest in our material possessions and we invest in our relationships. We accumulate stuff, mementos of special times, art and...

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Are you beyond thinking about Coaching?

Are you beyond just thinking about coaching and ready to jump in?  Not everyone is actually ready to be coached or even ‘coachable’.  Not everyone is serious about creating a life of their own design, to make deliberate and conscience decisions that will make major +positive + changes to how they live and enjoy who they are and how they interact with the world around...

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Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage

My wife and I  attended a fantastic seminar for couples. Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage was straight to the point on so many important issues, presented in a fun, laughable and easily digestible manner, for both men and women. Check out this video clip. Then contact me on how to bring this fantastic 6 hour seminar to your church or organization. video clip:...

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