Money is Only An Energy Of The World
The earliest lesson I remember getting concerning money was when I was in my early twenties. (It would of course be wrong to say that my parents taught me nothing prior to this â€“ in fact much was learned and taught growing up about spending, saving, investing and earning, but weâ€™ll leave that for another time)
My then girlfriend and I (now wife of 27 years) were traveling by thumb and backpack around Europe and caught a ride somewhere in
After enjoying the coffee together we left the cafÃ© and said our good-byes. Her parting action was to stuff a wad of money into my hand. I tried to give it back saying how we really didnâ€™t need it and had just earned money working in
That was an important lesson. It parallels the laws of giving and receiving, tithing, sowing and reaping. I have often shared the story adding the example of how electricity flows through a building and a person only needs to plug into it to become part of the flow. (Of course plugging into it can lead to death, an appliance it recommended). A better example is the water pipes in a home. In this form of energy a person can control the flow. Opening the faucet wider creates a larger flow.
And so it is with money. Some people have learned to tap into this Energy of the World in a bigger way. Some professions or industries have a larger faucet; some are limited in how much the faucet can be opened.
The software industry is an example. While many examples exist of failed attempts in this area, those that have succeeded in creating a product consumers like can open a wide flow of energy. Once written, software code can be duplicated and delivered rather inexpensively. I apologize to those who would choose to differ; I use this as an example only, along with five years working in this industry.
Compare this to the flow of money/energy that goes to a person who has chosen the profession of child care. While the energy flow of money is a comparative trickle, it is important to know that the flow of grateful emotions, smiles and giggles is far greater than in other professions.
But flow is the important word here.
Who hasnâ€™t stood in a warm shower when someone flushes the toilet?
What happened is that the flow of cold water was diverted and all that was left was the hot water flow. Fortunately this situation quickly corrects itself and the flow of water is balanced. Not so in life. If we stop the flow of money out of our hands we eventually stop or slow the flow of money into our hands. The retailer who does not buy new products to sell can not continue to make profits. The business that fails to spend money on advertising slows the ability to earn income.
A great example of this is in the natural world. In
The difference between these two is their flow. Both bodies of water have an inflow from the
In summary â€“ whether your profession taps into the flow of money and wealth in a big way or a small way, it is often up to you to decide how wide you want to open the tap. Check the other energy flows in your life. Are they stuffed up? Is it because you are not giving as much as taking? Become a conduit of all the energy and resources and talents you have been given, and much will be added unto you, press it down, shake it up and enjoy!
“Give and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure– pressed down, shaken together and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.”
Things We Control #2
2) Your Relationships. Humans are relational beings. The human heart craves connection. Why else would solitary confinement be such a cruel punishment or the unheld orphan lack basic mental and physical development. The strong independent person still needs a hug, a pat on the back, a warm handshake and an encouraging smile.
Without human contact we lack a sounding board for our thoughts and feelings, feedback to hone our appearance and personality, and comparisons to regulate our self esteem and confidence. But with human contact we encounter the toxicity of others, the lack of boundaries into our personal space and the cruelness of the human heart.
Our ability to control our relationships is one of the three primary controls we have in life. While we can’t pick our relatives we can control their effect on our lives. It is under our control to set up boundaries, choose friends and regulate the purpose and depth of any relationship.
Determining whether a co-worker becomes a personal friend or if ending a business relationship in order to save a friendship is something each of us must decide. Remaining in a relationship that pulls you down and stifles your growth is a choice, a choice that can be changed. Deciding who will enter into your circle of relationships and how far that relationship will go is under your control. Knowing this and exercising your control gives you the freedom venture into unknown territory, to ‘take a chance’ through opportunities to meet new friends and experience new interactions. When you fully accept that it is up to you and under your control you no longer have to hesitate or avoid uncomfortable situations because the discomfort is under your influence. You have decided to be where your presence is needed, and then you decide when it is time to exit. You decide when to say yes and when to say no. But with this understanding of your power to decide and to control comes the responsibility to consider the feelings of others. With compassion and concern, firmness and decisiveness, you can be a strong blessing to those you love and care about. Your confidence is growing and your self esteem is rising.
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There are Only 3 Things I can Control
Three things. When you boil it all down there are really only 3 things that each of us controls in life. And that’s only true if you live in the privileged and affluent parts of our world. For some it is only two or one.
Like the primary colors of red, blue and yellow combine to make the whole rainbow it is these primary factors alone that we have the ability to control. All else is a combination of the three.
Your Emotions. To feel is to be human. When a person is unable to feel sorrow, joy or fear there is often a psychological blockage that needs to be worked through. Avoiding situations that touch us in a deep way – like the death of a loved one, the thrill of an adventure or the risk of reaching out in friendship – can limit the depth that we as humans are able to experience life in its fullest.
Controlling our emotions is not about controlling our feelings. It is a matter of controlling how we respond and react to any given situation.
Between action and reaction, cause and effect, there is a moment of time for the human species in which only thought exists. Animals don’t share this opportunity. Their reactions are instinctive, they respond. But for a human, how we respond to a stimuli is always preceded by an opportunity to consider what our response will be.
Do I lash out with angry words when I am cut off in traffic, or consider the possibilities of what the other person may be facing. When the fire alarm goes off do I run for the door or look around and offer assistance. When an offer for intimacy comes do I consider all the repercussions before replying.
It is in that millisecond of time when I insert thought and logic that I become fully aware and fully in control.
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Why I Coach Men
Because we need it. We don’t think we do, of course not. We were taught to be strong, self sufficient and independent. Suck it up, quit crying, get back up on the horse, you can do it. For some of us those words were spoken in an encouraging tone, for others the tone was harsh, condescending and frightening. And so we sucked it up, quit crying and got back up on the horse. We learned to hide our failures and shortcomings, denying them to others as well as ourselves. Some of us learned to be little men before we had a chance to be boys. Many of us are men who haven’t left the little boy behind yet.
Coaching isn’t about psychology, therapy or an intense exorcism of our past. We are where we are right now because of a myriad of factors. What we do going forward and how we do it is what counts the most right now. Our past will always play a role in those decisions, but will it be a positive influence or a negative anchor? Will our past give us clarity or confusion, will it guide us or control us?
Coaching is another pair of eyes on our life. Have you ever been given the advice to “have someone take another look at it”, “Look it over again in the morning with new eyes” or “See what the others think about this.” Too often our own perception and perspective inhibits our view of the answers we need. It takes another set of eyes to help us uncover the truths we seek, the places our life has gotten off track or out of balance.
As your coach, I journey with you helping to formulate the plans and design the strategies to get things back on the path that leads to your goals and re balance the life you were meant to live. I am your cheerleader, encourager and sometimes offer a gentle kick in the pants.
What is unfortunate and makes little sense is that the stars of our day recognize the need for coaches and readily enlist their services. Top athletes and corporate giants have performance coaches and consultants around them always. But regular guys, whose dreams, goals and needs are just as important and often more so, wait till things are falling apart before seeking help. Coaching is about making bad things good and good things better and better things great!
Mature men recognize that the western male mystic of strong independence is a hoax and that as men we do better and enjoy life more with friends, coaches and companions.
Why do I coach men? Because I know how my life is made richer by the friends I have and coaches I use. I coach men because my passion is to help other men find their passion, find their balance and become the leaders they were created to be. Men who lead their personal lives responsibly, their family life lovingly and their work life ethically.
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