Morning Routines – Breakfast Time
This will certainly not be the first time you have heard it said that “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day” and yet for many of us our morning routine does not lend itself to fulfill this reality in our life.
The most important word in the above sentence is ‘routine.’ While I strive to make my life anything but routine – morning and evening routines set the pace for the quality of the rest of the day. More on this later.
Rehydrate! – get in the habit (its all about habit – 21 days to create a new habit so be patient and consistent with the things you know are right) of drinking water as soon as you wake up. Throughout the night your body lost lots of water through respiration and all the metabolic activity it performed. This lost water needs to be replaced as soon as possible. By drinking a large glass of water you are also turning the wheels and getting your body into motion – waking it up and preparing it for the day ahead.
My routine begins when nature calls, around 5:30, to use the toilet and then fill the large tumbler I always leave in the bathroom with water and gulp it down. I then return to bed, or not. Over the next half hour as the water makes it way through the digestive system and rehydrates the body I begin to feel more and more awake.
Within the next hour I will make breakfast. I want to finish this entry by suggesting the simplest and fastest breakfast I normally consume. This choice is effective in fulfilling my nutritional needs as well as setting me up for most of the morning. In other words shutting down any desire for other foods until late in the morning or near lunch time. Give it a try and we’ll talk later about the whys.
Oatmeal – a half cup with 2/3rds cup water (I eyeball the measurements, but used a measuring cup at first) in a large cereal bowl. One minute in the microwave. Now forget the honey cinnamon and raisins (Okay, maybe sometimes) and mix in a serving of protein powder. The product I use calls for 2 scoops to equal about 25 grams of protein and comes in either chocolate or strawberry.
Couldn’t be any easier and now I have a protein rich complex carbohydrate to which I add my vitamin supplements and I am set for the morning. This is a fairly easy meal to grab and eat in the car. No buttery things to hold in your hand, no milk sloshing around so if you are in a hurry there is no reason not to eat a good breakfast. Our cars often have an empty bowl and spoon with dried oatmeal stuck to the sides rolling around on the floor. A small concession for a proper breakfast. – Priorities!
Protein Powder – Many brands
Vitamin Supplements – One Brand
Have a Fit day!
Things We Control #2
2) Your Relationships. Humans are relational beings. The human heart craves connection. Why else would solitary confinement be such a cruel punishment or the unheld orphan lack basic mental and physical development. The strong independent person still needs a hug, a pat on the back, a warm handshake and an encouraging smile.
Without human contact we lack a sounding board for our thoughts and feelings, feedback to hone our appearance and personality, and comparisons to regulate our self esteem and confidence. But with human contact we encounter the toxicity of others, the lack of boundaries into our personal space and the cruelness of the human heart.
Our ability to control our relationships is one of the three primary controls we have in life. While we can’t pick our relatives we can control their effect on our lives. It is under our control to set up boundaries, choose friends and regulate the purpose and depth of any relationship.
Determining whether a co-worker becomes a personal friend or if ending a business relationship in order to save a friendship is something each of us must decide. Remaining in a relationship that pulls you down and stifles your growth is a choice, a choice that can be changed. Deciding who will enter into your circle of relationships and how far that relationship will go is under your control. Knowing this and exercising your control gives you the freedom venture into unknown territory, to ‘take a chance’ through opportunities to meet new friends and experience new interactions. When you fully accept that it is up to you and under your control you no longer have to hesitate or avoid uncomfortable situations because the discomfort is under your influence. You have decided to be where your presence is needed, and then you decide when it is time to exit. You decide when to say yes and when to say no. But with this understanding of your power to decide and to control comes the responsibility to consider the feelings of others. With compassion and concern, firmness and decisiveness, you can be a strong blessing to those you love and care about. Your confidence is growing and your self esteem is rising.
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There are Only 3 Things I can Control
Three things. When you boil it all down there are really only 3 things that each of us controls in life. And that’s only true if you live in the privileged and affluent parts of our world. For some it is only two or one.
Like the primary colors of red, blue and yellow combine to make the whole rainbow it is these primary factors alone that we have the ability to control. All else is a combination of the three.
Your Emotions. To feel is to be human. When a person is unable to feel sorrow, joy or fear there is often a psychological blockage that needs to be worked through. Avoiding situations that touch us in a deep way – like the death of a loved one, the thrill of an adventure or the risk of reaching out in friendship – can limit the depth that we as humans are able to experience life in its fullest.
Controlling our emotions is not about controlling our feelings. It is a matter of controlling how we respond and react to any given situation.
Between action and reaction, cause and effect, there is a moment of time for the human species in which only thought exists. Animals don’t share this opportunity. Their reactions are instinctive, they respond. But for a human, how we respond to a stimuli is always preceded by an opportunity to consider what our response will be.
Do I lash out with angry words when I am cut off in traffic, or consider the possibilities of what the other person may be facing. When the fire alarm goes off do I run for the door or look around and offer assistance. When an offer for intimacy comes do I consider all the repercussions before replying.
It is in that millisecond of time when I insert thought and logic that I become fully aware and fully in control.
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Why I Coach Men
Because we need it. We don’t think we do, of course not. We were taught to be strong, self sufficient and independent. Suck it up, quit crying, get back up on the horse, you can do it. For some of us those words were spoken in an encouraging tone, for others the tone was harsh, condescending and frightening. And so we sucked it up, quit crying and got back up on the horse. We learned to hide our failures and shortcomings, denying them to others as well as ourselves. Some of us learned to be little men before we had a chance to be boys. Many of us are men who haven’t left the little boy behind yet.
Coaching isn’t about psychology, therapy or an intense exorcism of our past. We are where we are right now because of a myriad of factors. What we do going forward and how we do it is what counts the most right now. Our past will always play a role in those decisions, but will it be a positive influence or a negative anchor? Will our past give us clarity or confusion, will it guide us or control us?
Coaching is another pair of eyes on our life. Have you ever been given the advice to “have someone take another look at it”, “Look it over again in the morning with new eyes” or “See what the others think about this.” Too often our own perception and perspective inhibits our view of the answers we need. It takes another set of eyes to help us uncover the truths we seek, the places our life has gotten off track or out of balance.
As your coach, I journey with you helping to formulate the plans and design the strategies to get things back on the path that leads to your goals and re balance the life you were meant to live. I am your cheerleader, encourager and sometimes offer a gentle kick in the pants.
What is unfortunate and makes little sense is that the stars of our day recognize the need for coaches and readily enlist their services. Top athletes and corporate giants have performance coaches and consultants around them always. But regular guys, whose dreams, goals and needs are just as important and often more so, wait till things are falling apart before seeking help. Coaching is about making bad things good and good things better and better things great!
Mature men recognize that the western male mystic of strong independence is a hoax and that as men we do better and enjoy life more with friends, coaches and companions.
Why do I coach men? Because I know how my life is made richer by the friends I have and coaches I use. I coach men because my passion is to help other men find their passion, find their balance and become the leaders they were created to be. Men who lead their personal lives responsibly, their family life lovingly and their work life ethically.
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